This question was posed to me by
one of the hockey parents, and I couldn’t agree more. What is it about hockey
that makes the parents so neurotic and anxious? It’s just a game, right? Maybe
not, anyone involved knows this not to be the case.
In addition to the horrendous
number of hours that parents have to dedicate to their kid’s game, there is the
question of what exactly we (not just they) are trying to get out of this. The
answer, unfortunately, is not so simple.
Sure, it’s all about fun, but in
the era of modern parenting, even fun has to have some functional purpose.
This, of course, is coupled with a healthy dose of parental blinders regarding
what’s best for their child. Despite what the kids want (to have fun), parents
know (or do they?) that there needs to be some hard work to learn and progress.
Plus, the willingness to work hard in one area will translate into hard work in
another. N is more than able to work hard at something, and can do well, but
tends to opt for the path of least resistance. Along this line, he might be
more inclined to play on a mediocre team if it’s easier than a top team if it’s
harder. Bear in mind he’s just a kid, but again, hockey is a different world.
It is important to maintain his interest and ensure that he is enjoying the
process.
Anyway, there’s plenty of drama in
the hockey world, and we are in the midst of it right now. N is doing a skills
session with the big city program. I think it’s perfect for him, but it’s a
long practice (2 hours-N has complained), and they work hard. They indicated as
much in the flier. The coaches are the real deal, and they have repeated what
I’ve said in the past: N is a good listener/learner and is very coach-able. He
sees the ice well and is a good skater. All good things, but only when paired
with a good teacher/coach.
I am not such a person, and if
next season I or TG ended up being the head coach, I really don’t think he
would get a lot out of it other than having fun and playing hockey. That would
be fine, but to progress as a player, he would do better to have someone like GG
or Mr. Hockey as a coach, who know more about the game, and are passionate. I
can already see that he has benefited from this past season with Mr. Hockey.
This brings up the complication
with the coming season. All indications were that Mr. Hockey was taking his
kids to the big city, where he lives. It makes perfect sense, and nobody can
fault him. That left us to fend for ourselves, and I thought N would be better
off in the big city program, despite my huge reservations (cost, intensity, more cost). I figured in the big city, he’d get the
best coaching (no question), be on a competitive team, and be surrounded by top
notch players. N said he’d be open to the idea.
Now comes complication #2: the big
city has up to three or four teams, with a hierarchy in talent. After talking
to numerous people and investigating the possibilities, I concluded that the
optimal benefits are derived from playing on the top team. They have tryouts,
which is normal for most programs, by an outside board. If you’re a good player
and have a bad day at tryouts, then you’re out of luck, because things won’t
change. I know someone whose son falls into this category, he is on a team way
below his abilities, but there’s no going back. Plus, when you play on the top
team, they don’t mess around and work like dogs. When you watch them play, it
shows, they are amazingly good, but function like a machine. I’m not sure if N
is ready for that.
Boy, life would be easier if there
weren’t so many darn choices. The lure of the big city program became even more
seductive when I spoke with one of the coaches, who also runs the skills camp,
and he said, straight out without my prompting, that he thought N had a shot at
making the top team. The term he used was “real legitimate shot.” Naturally my
insecurities swept me away in a wave possibilities.
In the end, I’m not sure what to
make of it all. I’m happy the coach thinks highly of N, I think he works hard
and deserves it, but I’ve also noticed plenty of kids from other programs
seduced by the allure of the big city program. Might he be just feeding us a
all a line to get us to come over? The reality is, he didn’t have to say a
thing. The big city program is never for want of players, they have so many
kids they don’t know what to do with them. Furthermore, the coach in question
was not gushing, he was measured and concise in his assessment, and I agree
with his points.
So the end result is we don’t know
what to do. Plus, the clock is ticking. They put the pressure on you and you
have to decide.
As my friend said, why does this
have to be so hard? I feel some loyalty to our current program: A and N love
it, the kids are nice, the parents are nice, and it’s manageable. They are not
as powerful as the big city program, but is that really needed at this age? One
of the problems I see is that with all these choices, the whole system crumbles
because everyone must look out for their own interest and can pick and choose.
Parents can’t be expected to compromise their own kid’s interest. I think N
would grow as a player in the highly competitive atmosphere of the big city,
but he would be a senior player and potential leader in our current program.
What to do? This will continue
until the season starts, no doubt. I wish it were simpler, but then again, if
it were, life might not be as interesting.
Until the next time, thanks for
reading, and thanks to Geoff the cameraman for the pic.
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